Raising an indigo

Having an indigo child in the household can be like living with a loose cannon on deck, though compensated for with so many moments of extraordinarily uplifting joy and inspiration, not to mention demonstrations of love that never grow thin. They are far from the perfect all-knowing angels  who should be “teaching us” and us only ever doing their bidding, as they are often depicted in spiritual circles (though they offer many moments like that…) and they need us to set the example when it comes to how to hone their burning passion and wilful self-belief into a form that is world-ready. They can be highly emotive and like a whirlwind of painful sensitivity and super-passionate (and desperately immediate since they don’t like waiting around) desire; a veritable tsunami in the midst of family life and you can feel their energy like a highly charged electricity pylon when they are in full flow. We, the parent, need to be the mast to which they tie themselves, at least for a while, so they don’t self-harm or blast any others and, in the meantime we can feel like we are getting our own feathers repeatedly singed, if we let this happen by sticking grimly to old parenting modalities or even denying that we have such a role to play anymore as parents of children who seem to be born inherently “switched-on”. This is the balancing act that has faced countless modern-day parents whose children are now reaching adulthood; with varying results.

Yet, its true, they do evolve us, too….not always knowingly yet the leaps in consciousness we make, catalysed by them (if we are open to it) are tremendous. As an indigo myself (yes, that is entirely possible;  though rarer in our generation, there are many of us now in our middle-life years) it can be tempting to reach back to an alien “soul aura” (pre indigo) type response to try to control their extremities and, sometimes, anti-social behaviours around the home. Out of desperation, we may find ourselves drawing on behaviours we remember from our own parents and grandparents because, with our minds, we really don’t know what else to do…so, maybe extreme rule-setting and penalties are what it takes to get somewhere, we try telling ourselves. Or…from our own indigo-ness (which never feels comfortable with those old responses, to the point we often tell ourselves, in our most self-doubting moments, that  we “must be bad parents” because we dislike being the authoritarian so much), we take the leap towards the other possible response…

That alternative is the response to parenting that is felt with the whole heart and with a powerful affirmative from the gut instincts, which is that we make a quantum leap –  ourselves – to surpass our own indigo-approach and become more crystalline in our perspectives. This gains us the un-emotive overview and the pristine, un-agendered response that raising these children calls for; and it keeps our own energy un-depleted and intact while theirs runs amok. We learn the ropes (for we have to) when it comes to living with and loving another entity that is the way that it is and yet often clashes with our heartfelt desires and our personal space; so we hone our own conscious responses to this situation in a way that is both firm yet without hostility (those combined skills we most need in our world). We learn to work with energetic boundary setting in such an enhanced way; and how to forgive all at a moment’s notice, for there is (from this place) nothing, ever, to forgive. In other words, we step up another level, to a new version of parenting (and LIFE) that knows no meaningless hierarchy or control-games, demands no rites of gratitude or pay-back, nor does it repeat endless cycles of behaviours that were already outmoded when we were growing up but which, instead, is all about being the recognisable high-frequency energy that these children seek (often in vain from their oh-so frustrating world) from their very moment of arrival on here. So, then, they really have something to work with as a role model because we  have the advantage that we already know all about being here and working with themes that are as tangible as they are now uncomfortable and obsolete; we have the tee-shirt of doing that and we can offer something to them just as they do to us. This collaboration is super-powerful and is exactly what is occurring right here, right now on planet earth as countless young people coming of age and their parents and other adult role-models pitch in together, sharing skill sets in a way that evolves us all, worldwide.

Indigo child.jpgFrom this milestone in a parenting journey, the kind of evolution that is possible between the pair of you knows no limits as each of you catalyses the other towards a new and considerably more evolved, as yet largely unexplored, form of parenting and being the parented one, on brand new and harmonious, collaboratory, mutually beneficial and always expanding terms. The child that receives this kind of parenting will not race to leave forever the nest that they had already (in many ways) outgrown almost on arriving but will continue to use the steadying influence of the parent as a touchstone as they spread their wings into a world they are now able to go into without the kind of erratic self-belief that would make them a liability to themselves. That way, they will go further and faster, influencing and shaping even more than they ever would have in a situation where all their efforts were put into fighting what felt so “off” about their upbringing (as many of our generation spent years, even decades, doing). They can get straight to the point; and that point holds great benefit for us all as their fresh insight comes on board to help change the world.

I speak with the assumption that anyone reading this will have an understanding of what indigo and crystal children are since there is widely available information on these topics and, if the concept is new, I highly recommend books by Anni Senov. Until the mid to late twentieth century, human beings possessed a soul aura, which is when indigo auras started appearing. I have been, at least, a partial indigo all my life; my belief being that (akin to many others of my age-group) I stepped up to becoming full-blown indigo from the 1980s as the effects of the eighth wave began to be felt and am well on the way to becoming crystalline (with some teething issues; hence ongoing health challenges). Children born between the 1990s until, I suspect, the pre-wave to the ninth wave came with an indigo aura intact and, since the ninth wave initiated (is my personal theory), arrive with a crystal aura. At this time, a great many indigos are “coming of age” and we are about to feel the effect in our world!

Without wanting to go into explaining these terms in-depth (my purpose in this article was to briefly share some observations from my own parenting years, as my own daughter comes of age), I refer you to the many other books and articles available on the topic.

For more on the eight and ninth waves refered to, seek out my earlier posts using the term “ninth wave”.


About Helen White

Helen White is a professional artist and published writer with two primary blogs to her name. Her themes pivot around health and wellbeing, expanded consciousness and ways of noticing how life is a constant dance between the deeply subjective and the collective-universal, all of which she explores with a daily hunger to get to know herself better. Her blog Living Whole shines a light on living with high sensitivity, dealing with trauma and healing from chronic health issues. Spinning the Light is an extremely broad-based platform where she elucidates the everyday alchemy of relentless self-exploration. A lifetime of "feeling like an outsider" slowly emerged as neurodivergence (being a Highly Sensitive Person with ADHD, synaesthesia, sensory processing challenges and other defecits overlapping with giftedness). All of these topics are covered in her blogs, written from two distinct vantage points so, if you have enjoyed one of them, you may wish to explore the other for a different, yet entirely complimentary, perspective.
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5 Responses to Raising an indigo

  1. cathytea says:

    I enjoyed reading this ! My boyfriend is an indigo (he’s 71, so an early comer!) In Bowers’ scheme , I’m a crystal , though I’m not sure how her schemata line up with current thoughts on crystal children . Due to my experience living with an indigo for over 35 years , I recognized indigo qualities in your writing and experiences , especially the descriptions of physical discomforts due to having a sensitive system in a harsh world !


    • Helen White says:

      I’ve found so many variances in the timescales given for when indigos were “meant” to have appeared that I don’t put too much importance on them…they are just opinions. In my opinion, there were some very early indigos appearing about 100 years ago (we can find them amongst artists and writers, for instance) then many more from the mid 1960s and whole waves from the late 1980s onwards when the eighth prewave got going. I haven’t come across the hybrid idea that I share anywhere else yet (though it is my experience), i.e. that I was both a soul aura and indigo aura, combined, for a very long time…and am now an indigo with very dominant crystal traits…but this makes total sense to me as we transition this world into a new place that requires a bridge between one persective and another. Having parents interact with a younger generation of a different aura type isn’t as potent as undergoing these transitions yourself within one lifetime (or being born already indigo or crystal) and, while the experience of this can be really disorienting and even painful or destructive-feeling when you are in it, those who bridge like this model the transition and the very reasons why it is desirable so that the whole world can follow.

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  2. A fascinating post Helen. I have to admit I had not come across the term before, and had to do some research. So much to discover in life! I admire your sensitivity and awareness.

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